Connecting with the Autism Spectrum by Casey “Remrov” Vormer

 

I read Connecting with the Autism Spectrum:  How to Talk, How to Listen, and Why You Shouldn’t Call it High-Functioning by Casey “Remrov” Vormer in April for Autism Awareness month.   In 2021, 1 in 44 children in the United States (1 in 27 boys, 1 in 116 girls) were diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder.  Many older adults probably have autism, but diagnosis didn’t happen as much in years past.  You probably have a friend, family member, or a coworker with autism.

I enjoyed this book as Casey Vormer has autism and is an autism advocate.  He talks through his experiences with autism, but also makes note that autism is a wide spectrum, so his experiences are not the same as everyone else.  This book gives a brief introduction and explanation of autism spectrum disorder and gives tips for talking and listening to neurodiverse adults to “make your interactions more transparent, meaningful, and rewarding for all.”  

This book was short and written in an engaging format.  It had a lot of good tips in it, including things to never say to an autistic person.  It also describes how the autism diagnosis is personal for people and that they need to have the choice to “come out” as autistic to family and friends.

Some of my favorite quotes were at the end of this book:

“What I enjoy most is being with a friend who encourages me to be myself and who doesn’t criticize me.  I also really appreciate a friend who will offer some advice, help, or support every now and then.  When it comes to befriending an autistic person, keep an open mind and do not judge.  Be patient and take the time to get to know an autistic person.”

“To the reader, I just want to say that it means a lot to me and probably to many other autistic people, that you took the step to learn more about autism by reading this book. I hope it will help you as a teacher, an employer, a coworker, or as a friend of an autistic person. Every person on the spectrum is unique, so not everything in this book applies to every single one of us, but don’t be discouraged if you make a mistake.”

“Autistic or not, everybody has their own story.  We all want the same things in life:  to be happy, to feel appreciated and loved, and to take part in this roller coaster we call life.  Everybody deserves a chance, and the best way to make this happen is to cross out the word “normal” in your dictionary and to be open-minded.  Embrace difference.  Celebrate the strengths and skills everyone has been given.  That’s the key for everyone to succeed and to thrive.”

Overall, Connecting with the Autism Spectrum is a great book to learn about autism and steps you can take for better communication with someone on the spectrum.

Book Source: Purchased from Amazon.com.